Get a Room!
Thankfully, the days when folks like Oscar Wilde were imprisoned and ridiculed for their sexuality are no longer with us in Europe. There is a far more liberal approach to partnerships and relationships in general.
HOWEVER (rant alert!)
I was really unsettled the other evening when we were sat next to a gay couple. Although I may not like swearing ‘Wash your Mouth Out’ I have no problems with gay or lesbian relationships. Each to his own I say and for fear of coming out with a terrible cliché, I do have close friends who are gay. Unfortunately, the couple we were next to clearly felt the need to tell the world they were a couple by going out of their way to hold hands across the table. This involved moving the condiments and wine to the point that the waitress arranged an additional chair to put some of the items on.
A series of passionate kisses took place, again across the table which was obviously for our benefit. I felt really sad about their insecurity. They were both wearing wedding band type rings which were clearly a symbol of their feelings for each other so there was no need for such OTT sentiments of affection.
As I felt so moved by it, I reviewed my feelings after the meal. Why did it affect me so? Was I in fact harbouring some unconscious narrow-mindedness? No – I don’t think so. I think it was because had they been a heterosexual couple, someone may well have commented about such out pouring over the dinner table in a busy restaurant. Why is it different for a homosexual couple? Having become more liberal in our approach, have we abandoned the right to comment on behaviour for fear of criticism of prejudice?
Was it all done for us? Did they want to be alone and hoped they would ‘frightened’ us away? If so it didn’t work although I might have moved had I realised they were smokers!