Take some of the stress out of your death

take some of the stress out of your death

Dying, passing on, passing away are not things we British like to think about, let alone talk about. My dear friend Gilly wrote a fabulous post with a great title that made me visit  ‘How to choose a coffin’ and after my shopping trip yesterday I thought I’d share with you how you can take some of the stress out of your death.


Pay before you go

Anyone who has been around daytime TV will be aware of the number of adverts about prepayment plans to save for when you depart this earth. They consist of monthly amounts being saved, hopefully, to build into a nice lump sum that is paid out when you die. This amount should cover funeral expenses and leave some money for your children or dependents.

The adverts are quite compelling citing the amount to be saved is less than a cup of coffee. My problem is that there is some very small print on them that may not be seen by the viewer. This explains that the amount paid out will be dependent on the financial markets and in some cases, you may not get back as much as you paid in.


Buy now and forget it

Hubby and I  haven’t thought about our funerals beyond putting how we want to be disposed of in our wills. We’re British you know!

However, when we were visiting the Leeds Building Society recently we picked up a leaflet about a prepaid funeral. We liked what we read and yesterday we went in and sorted it. We bought our funerals!

There are three plans you can choose from. The difference lies in the choice of the coffin and the number of limousines you have. All the other details are covered – registering the death, moving the body to the funeral director, care of the body, procession. They also offer a 24-hour telephone bereavement counselling service. 


take some of the stress out of your death


Why I like it

I don’t like to think about my not being here anymore but as a ‘grown up’ I should make certain arrangements so that chaos isn’t left for my family when I’m gone. I have known situations where there is no will, no idea of where the savings are and this has caused great angst for the family who are left trying to organise things at a time when they will be upset. With this plan, all they have to do is phone one number for the arrangements to kick in. 

For me, I don’t have to think about it again. I won’t have that monthly reminder of my impending departure. This is not a sponsored post. I think it is a fabulous plan and will help take some of the stress out of your death. Pop into your nearest branch of the Leeds Building Society to get a brochure. you don’t even have to be a saver with them! 


What plans have you made for your death?

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  • I do talk (and write) about death quite a lot. And I have now organised two funerals, Mother’s and Aunt’s. Aunt had prepaid for hers. Though we topped it up a bit. She had specified where she wanted to be buried. And had bought the plot. Also where the funeral was to take place and that mourners should be provided with substantial refreshments. Those two words caused me more agonising than anything else, though I am sure she knew exactly what she meant. I think leaving the outline f the funeral planned and paid for is a good idea. She also stated one of the hymns she wanted, but generals are for the comfort of those who are left, and for me, in both the funerals I have had to organise, there has been some measure of consolation in concentrating so much on their memories and trying to create a service that will honour them. So I would not leave too many details, and if possible, if you know you are dying to discuss it with the people who are going to carry out your wishes, so they feel confident about what they do.

  • I don’t think I’ve met a single person in my age group who has seriously thought about this subject. Many folks don’t even want to and I understand why. However, after my surgery in May, it was something that I thought about a lot. I wasn’t facing an imminent death, but I suffered through some serious complications from surgery and ended up staying in the hospital an additional 6 days. I have but one family member, my son. I don’t want to leave him with a big bill, decisions to make and all of the hassle. Thanks for the great reminder.

  • Kicking and screaming! Seriously, however, I have everything planned out and written down in a “Survivors Book.” I didn’t want things to be difficult for those I leave behind, so I did the planning for them. It’s not only my nursing background but seeing the stress on the family of friends. @sheilamgood at Cow Pasture Chronicles

  • To go noisily!
    Thanks for the pingback lovely lady x:-)x

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